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How do you motivate a 4th grader that doesn't care and his family isn't helping either?

Jan 19, 2017 7:33am

I have a student that doesn't care if he fails. He believes his parents will be able to make us pass him. He is also very violent so when we give him an assignment he blows up. At home he does this and gets his way. Nothing scares him, nothing motivates him. The last time he got violent over not wanting to do his work we contacted the police to escort him home and he flipped off the officer and called him an f***ing p***y. Any ideas?

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    • Jan 22, 2017 7:32pm

      Wow. That's a toughy...I would ask for a meeting with with a school administrator, counselor, and a parent whereas we would work together to construct a code of conduct as well a list of disciplinary actions. It sounds as if it will likely take a team effort to modify his behavior.

      • Feb 18, 2017 2:14pm

        First of all has he had a functional behavioral assessment? I have been teaching behavior problem students for 23 years and every student is different. You can't put one student in a group where you trying the same interventions. To break a habit that he may have takes at least 15 days to become a new habit. You have to stick to your guns even know is extremely stressful and upsetting so that he understands that he is not going to get his way and that no matter how much he tries it's not gonna change. Most students that I have taught work well when everything is spelled out in front of them and they know what to expect each day when it comes to assignments. One big problem that you can run into is saying that you're going to do something and not do it or even be able to do it. That gives him the power back that he knows it's empty and it's meaning.feel free to use me as a consultant for your problem. My email is