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My students hate me

Oct 5, 2015 11:19am

Hy! My students hate me and I don't know why? Until last week we were ok, talking, collaborating, and suddenly on Friday I received a complain from them that I copy my power point presentation from internet (which is not true) and that I have no idea what am I teaching. Obviously, I did not copy the ppt from internet and I am qualified, so they misunderstood me. Now they hate me. What can I do? They don't collaborate with me any more and are extremely hostile. Thanks in advance

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    • Oct 5, 2015 3:38pm

      In all seriousness, it sounds like you are feeling isolated and unjustified. Based on your account and the way I see it is that the issue is about relationship, perhaps loss of trust or integrity. I am only speculating because I don't believe that you would plaigiarise. Additionally, by now everyone would quote the appropriate source of info using the APA format. Since you are their teacher, I think it's up to you to problem solve because you know them more than anyone. I am not trying to give you a bum's rush because I could make a list of suggestions on the fly but ultimately the solution is in you. I wonder what your admin has said and I'm assuming that you had already consulted at least a colleague. Secondly, and I know I'm preaching to the choir, you can't please everyone. There will be parents, colleague, and students who will either hate you or worship the ground you walk on. A question is - Is their opinion of you more important than meeting the needs of your students? Is this about them or about you or both? What is your focus?

      • Oct 6, 2015 7:47am

        You have to build trust and relationship with them while at the same time letting them know you are in charge. This is a fine line that we all struggle to balance upon, but once you get there it's totally worth the effort. Building that relationship might mean that you have to make sacrifices for a bit, but getting your students to buy in and gain your trust goes a looooong way! Best wishes!

        • Oct 8, 2015 8:14pm

          You may have to let them know you have noticed a change in their attitudes toward you. And would like to talk about how to make the relationship better. Sometimes being open and putting ourselves out there will cause the students to open up and talk about what has been bothering them.

          • Oct 11, 2015 9:48am

            Communicate, build relationships, and try switching things up a bit. I wouldn't assume anyone hates you! Students can complain and make accusations but that is different from hating their teacher, and much of the time at this age they are just learning to find their voice, and stand up for themselves more boldly. Explain to them your teaching process, how you make your power points, etc, and also come up with some other ways to teach them new information aside from power point so that they can see you are responding to their feedback.

            • Oct 22, 2015 3:10pm

              Has your situation improved? Please let us know and we can continue to offer ideas. Thanks to all of you for your assistance!